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Dec 28, 2015

We all know that as non-monogamous perverts, we’re completely above jealousy. It’s 100% full-time compersion up in here!  Except we’re not, and it’s not. Jealousy affects all our relationships for so many different reasons. Different people and situations trigger jealousy bombs in sometimes unexpected ways.

 

@wetcoastkat and @seriousFLICK discuss jealousy in many of its iterations, what it means, what it doesn’t mean, why some people cause you to Hulk out while others might inspire giddy compersion rainbows and why rules don’t always work in the shadow of their coming out and their trip to Desire. They also discuss what they have done to decrease the harm jealousy can do in their open relationship.

You can find WetCoastCat at www.lifeontheswingset.com/author/kat/ and on twitter @wetcoastkat. You can find Flick on twitter @seriousFLICK.

 

Hey Perverts, Dylan here…

I had this insane conversation with a dude, just earlier today, someone who was complaining that women get to do men don’t do. “It’s just like reverse racism!” “See? Women have it better.” And the thing is… I get it. I get where that might come from, sometimes things seem unfair, especially to men, men who have been taught they need to earn a woman’s affection meaning, if they just show enough devotion, put in enough effort, and demonstrate they can provide, and any woman out there worth anything should want to be with them.

Men have been taught to worship women and to work themselves to the bone for someone so they don’t have to.

I get it.

We’ve been setup to sacrifice ourselves for someone else, someone else who wants us to sacrifice for them and who will show us their eternal appreciation by opening their hearts, their minds and yes… their legs.

  1. Get. It.

But that’s the thing, we’ve been setup, by the men and women in our lives, by our parents, by our cultures, by the people we’ve cared about our entire lives because they didn’t know any better. We’ve been set-up to feel like if someone doesn’t want that they’re ungrateful.

It’s insidious, and it does us nothing but harm and it sets us up to get left at the doorstep when we walk someone home or get left without a drinking partner when we buy someone a few drinks or don’t get a thank you when we hold a door open or when we don’t get brought home when we buy someone dinner, because we –expect something- based on what we put out.

We’ve been set up.

Thing is, women have been setup too, we’ve all been setup, and the more people figure it out, the more the people who haven’t figured it out get angry because we’re not getting what we’re supposed to, because the world has changed and women faster than men are changing meaning we’re getting left behind.

But it doesn’t have to be like that.

If you’re listening to this and connecting to any of the frustrations I laid out above then know there’s a better way. Many women don’t need or want us to lay down our lives for them, they don’t want to be put on a pedestal and worshipped, they don’t want to be provided for… they just want to be people, and move with people that understand no one owes anyone anything… and that means us. If we want to be with someone, be with women, and be listened to, friends with, cared for, and loved by women, it needs to be a meeting of equals and a mutual meeting of minds, meeting of hearts, and yes… a mutual meeting of bodies.

And if you don’t get that, know this.

Women don’t give a fuck what you think or what you want, because they don’t have to, because giving a fuck… That… is something you have to earn.

Check out these articles by Rafaella Gunz about her experiences seeking support in STI communities and… being hit with men feeling like she’s open for business, and being hit with men and women hitting her with “it’s just benign, it’s just harassment, deal with it”.

Take a few minutes to read, even if you decide not to agree with all of us, understand where she’s coming from and where women come from every day.

http://www.guerrillafeminism.org/male-entitlement-lives-even-in-sti-support-communities-rafaella-gunz

http://www.guerrillafeminism.org/internalized-misogyny-lives-even-in-sti-support-communities-rafaella-gunz/

 

Thanks for letting me rant a little, and to honor the fact that this will be my very last rant of 2015 I’ll close out by telling you that all of this was recorded at The Gentleperverts’ Social club, population, all of us. You can find more Gentleperverts’ Social Club podcasts every month at www.gentleperverts.com and discuss our latest episodes and topics on twitter with @GentlePerverts and me @DylanTheThomas. You can find me, Dylan Thomas, on FacebookSpotify and Fetlife as DylanTheThomas. If you have a submission, a story, a signal boost request, or an idea for a topic send that over to me at dylan@lifeontheswingset.com. If you like having me record live and on location, throw me a buck or two at tip.gentleperverts.com.

See you all next time, and stay warm.

 

Tonight we featured tracks by Stephen Walking and Tristam, titled: Too Simple, and by Muzzy & Day One titled: Black Magic.

Dec 22, 2015

Perverts! Stand at attention and lend me your ears, for tonight… we once again dive into language, we dive into our common vocabulary because sometimes we throw words around without regard to their roots and their original meaning. Words are understood and misunderstood, used and misused, and in the process words lose meaning. Words that lose their meaning can still useful. We can discuss, reexamine, and reclaim the words we’ve lost and in this spirit today, with Crista Anne and with Erin Kennedy, we spend our time discussing…

Trigger warnings.

 

We also touch on helicopter parenting generating “adults” who expect the world to adjust to them, and how shielding children from the reality that trauma exists in the world renders them unprepared to deal with the real world and we talk about storytelling and touch on Orange is the new Black and Jessica Jones

 

Choice Quotes:

 

Crista Anne:

For people who are thrown into flashbacks or full blown panic attacks (don’t know who you are, lose touch with reality, lose touch with time), they are just absolutely invaluable, to me, and as they have become more popular over time I have found navigating the internet to be so much easier.

Erin Kennedy:

There’s an inherent privilege as to what gets trigger warnings.

…I think it’s a balance between protecting people and protecting ourselves and making sure that we have the stuff that empathy is created out of…. Balancing between keeping yourself safe emotionally and also doing the work of empathy, however painful that is, is a tough balance to create.

 

You can find Erin Kennedy at www.sexfortherest.com and on twitter @erinstwitsexual and on facebook at facebook.com/sexfortherest and… and because she’s awesome, on Tumblr at sexfortherestofus.tumblr.com.

Crista Anne is mighty and she will… eventually run the world! You can find her on twitter at @Pinkness and at www.cristaanne.com and everywhere else as CristaAnne.

 

You can find Savoy – Your Time (feat Kiely) on Youtube and iTunes.

Dec 19, 2015

Hey gang! It looks like we're getting back to a regular schedule maybe? We're aiming for every two weeks on Fridays and are starting our return with an interview we recorded many months ago at CatalystCon in Virginia in March of 2015.

This episode features an interview and story with Dylan Thomas, who just so happens to be our Swingset.FM buddy / pal / tech guy / helper dude, and we apologize to him for holding onto it for so long! We also blah blah blah for a long while about our latest projects, health stuff, and maybe not so good life things, because we like to mix in the good with the ... well, realistic? Anyway, back to our guest!

Dylan Thomas is a sex-positive non-monogamous proselytizer from the suburban wastelands of Chicago. Dylan believes that there’s a larger non-normative sexuality community that all wants the same things; the freedom to be who they are, love who they want, and the choice to keep their sexual preferences as private or as public as they choose. Dylan sees the need for a more open discussion about why we, no matter where we exist on the identity, sexuality, or lifestyle spectrum, all have much more in common than we realize and that we’re all natural allies of each other.

Find Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas or all over the Swingset network.

Have feedback, thoughts, or praise about the episode? Send us an email
at TMSGpodcast@gmail.com or catch us on Twitter @TMSGpodcast, Samantha
@nympsam, and Sophie @sophiedelancey

Dec 12, 2015

Sex Ed A Go-Go made its very first appearance at Jeff Mach’s Geeky Kink Event Classic on November 6th. Lola and the Double P managed to make the kinksters blush with a little help from a well-placed Njoy Eleven.

Lola and the crew chat about prostate fun (Ass tug of war anyone?), the virtues of all things Njoy, weird places they’ve fucked, getting their genitals high on Foria, dental damn cock ghosts, having the kind of sex that sends you to the hospital, and dick showers, burlesque name or sex act or both? You’ll have to listen to find out!!

 

You can find Rebecca Hiles AKA The Frisky Fairy online:

Twitter: @TheFriskyFairy

Facebook: TheFriskyFairy

Website: FriskyFairy.com

 

You can find Lucas Brooks AKA Lucky Charming online:

Twitter: @IntellectHomo

Website: IntellectualHomosexual.com

Dec 8, 2015

In this special episode we sit down to talk about the recent abuse allegations against (retired?) porn star, James Deen. We share our personal reactions to the news and discuss how it has been handled both in mainstream and social media. We talk about what happens when we label someone a feminist because we want them to fit our own fantasy's narrative and how we can take that power back. We also talk about the porn industry and how challenging things can be for sex workers who find themselves in abusive situations.

Outside of speaking up for sex workers and women who so often are not believed when they go public with their stories of rape and sexual assault, we're not trying to solve anything with this discussion. We did, however, feel the need to have it and will continue to interrupt our standard format occasionally whenever important news items like this occur.

Have feedback, thoughts, or praise about the episode? Send us an email
at TMSGpodcast@gmail.com or catch us on Twitter @TMSGpodcast, Samantha
@nympsam, and Sophie @sophiedelancey

Dec 2, 2015

Hello and many Greetings to all you perverts, I’m recording live from Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Mexico! Earlier today I sat down with upwards of thirty, and likely many less than two hundred perverts for a discussion about spaces. What makes a space special? What helps make people feel safe? What makes a space a focal point for a community?

As we moved through a “how do we find other perverts” discussion, we stumbled on the question of what it means to stay closeted and to come out these days, drawing parallels and differences between the nonmonogamous and queer communities, and examining how it’s possible to win the hearts and minds of others when engaging them “behind enemy lines”.

Usually I’d have a little more to say, but I’m all talked out… and kissed out, and blissed out… I mean, really, if you’ve never made out with a tequila flavored shotglass…. You should give it a try.

But before you search for a shotglass with a flared base, this has been… quite literally, been a recording taken at the Gentleperverts’ Social Club, on location, in Mexico. You can find more Gentleperverts’ Social Club podcasts every month at www.gentleperverts.com and discuss our latest episodes and topics on twitter with @GentlePerverts and me @DylanTheThomas. You can find me, Dylan Thomas, on FacebookSpotify and Fetlife as DylanTheThomas. If you have a submission, a story, a signal boost request, or an idea for a topic send that over to me at dylan@lifeontheswingset.com. If you like having me record live, on location, throw me a buck or two at tip.gentleperverts.com.

Thanks for listening, and I hope to hear from you all soon.

Nov 28, 2015

inky stuff ahead! Prof and Ginger discuss their kinks, how they discovered their kinks, and what they do with their kinks in the world of open relationships. Dominance, submission, sadism, masochism, and mashups of everything kinky can trigger both guilt and shame as well as be a catalyst for letting go of hang ups that keep us all from our pleasure. Embracing your kinky side leads to your full sexual fulfillment.

 

Friends of Intellectual Foreplay and the Swingset, J.V. and Shara make smart, sexy things! Listen here: http://www.sexualdarkage.com

 

Tristan Taormino’s rough sex resources are amazing. Buy them here at SheVibe.com: http://www.shevibe.com/movies-and-books.aspx

 

Interested in traveling to Desire with Ginger and Prof in April 2016? Email Ginger for details at ginger@lifeontheswingset.com.

 

Review Intellectual Foreplay on iTunes!


Connect with Ginger and Prof on Twitter @gingerntheprof @intelforeplay. Also follow @ontheswingset and @swingsetFM for all the Swingsetty goodness!

Nov 27, 2015

Aaaaaaand we're back! It's been a long and busy break, but we're back to our regularly scheduled programming here on the Tell Me Something Good Podcast. While we had a brief interlude to explain just what was going on during our uneventful absence, we've been more or less out of the game for half a year. We missed you all and we're finally feeling ready to get back to spreading sexy stories again.

To celebrate our relaunch, we had a live recording at Samantha's own Playground Conference. We set up in a suite (all the conference rooms were booked up with fabulous talks, panels and workshops) and got into bed to record with renewed vigour. Sophie shares some updates on her recovery, some new sexual exploits and some BIG NEWS. Samantha shares her desires for some post-conference sex, which is also very valuable.

Sex educator, podcaster and cannasexual Ashley Manta joined us in bed (no, not like that) to discuss her podcast Carnalcopia, her amazing work around cannabis and sexuality and then a story involving a hot
cop and why it's always important to carry lube with you. We laugh, we learn and we all revel in our love of a man in uniform.


Find Ashley on Twitter @ashleymanta or on her sites:
http://www.ashleymanta.com, http://thecarnalcopia.com and https://www.leafly.com/news/authors/ashley-manta

Have feedback, thoughts, or praise about the episode? Send us an email at TMSGpodcast@gmail.com or catch us on Twitter @TMSGpodcast, Samantha @nympsam, and Sophie @sophiedelancey.

Nov 26, 2015

Force of nature, sex educator, and Whitney Houston enthusiast, Ericka Hart, and the bubbling brown sugar of burlesque, Essence Revealed, joined Lola on stage this month!

We almost let it slip by, but Lola and the Double P managed to put on a worthy anniversary show at Otto’s Shrunken Head on November 5th. Fabulous ladies and penis balloons, how could we go wrong?

 Lola and the crew chat and sing about the awesomeness of lube (bring it Ronda Rousey!), negotiating threesomes and being a good third wheel, the virtues of the new rechargeable Magic Wand, and the best masturbation toys on the market. Did I mention there's singing??

 You can find Ericka on Twitter: @iHartEricka

 You can find Essence online: http://theessencerevealed.com/

Nov 6, 2015

Hi all, Dylan here, It's been a while since I convened the club, and on the eve of my trip to Mexico after a long... long time without a break, I decided to put out a half-length show to whet your whistle and get you ready for the -seriously- biting episode we have in the pressure cooker. For now, enjoy some music, enjoy a story, and enjoy my wife and I having a bit of a chat.

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Segment 1, Dylan's Feels

I've had an exceptionally rough year and I'm getting past it but for some reason a particular song made me sit and feel everything all at once because, disregarding lyrics (words? who listens to music for words?!), this song felt like my life. Enjoy Varien - Valkyrie III: Atonement (feat. Laura Brehm) and thanks for sticking with me during the rough times.

 

Segment 2, Storytime With Kat

Wetcoast Kat is back with a story of a date and a little... under the table action. You can find her on twitter and on her own blog at lifeontheswingset.com/author/kat!

 

Segment 3, Dylan's Feels ..... again?

A chance encounter at the store on the way to a party sparks a conversation between Dylan and Tonia. It touches on a little paternalism, a little ownership, a little creepy dude ... and maybe a little oversensitive Dylan.

 

You can find more Gentleperverts podcasts every few weeks on Friday at www.gentleperverts.com and discuss our latest episodes and topics on the site or by pinging us on twitter at #GPSC or @GentlePerverts. You can find me, Dylan Thomas, on twitter, FacebookSpotify and Fetlife as DylanTheThomas and you can support me and the club at tip.gentleperverts.com. If you have a submission, a story, a signal boost request, or an idea for a topic send that to dylan@lifeontheswingset.com.

Thanks, and I'll pour an alcoholic smoothie down my wife's throat in all your honors.

 

This episode featured music from:

Varien - Valkyrie III: Atonement (feat. Laura Brehm)
Video Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3g34ZSm8PqI
iTunes Download Link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/valkyrie-iii-atonement-feat./id1048219775

Deon Custom - Aloha
Video Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tTAf5h_t3KY
iTunes Download Link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/aloha-single/id1049816302

Televisor - Break Loose (feat. Splitbreed) (Volant Remix)
Video Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgZPwsNHRIk
iTunes Download Link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/monstercat-024-vanguard/id1052327587

Pegboard Nerds - Emoji
Video Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgZPwsNHRIk
iTunes Download Link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/monstercat-024-vanguard/id1052327587

Oct 28, 2015

Crista Anne is filling in for Katie this week, and she and Ashley tackle the sex and depression. They share their experiences living with depression and the effects of stress, medication, and fatigue on arousal and orgasm.

Oct 23, 2015

 

Everyone is capable of being a fantastic lover. Prof and Ginger chat about what being a fantastic lover means to them. They are on a boat! (Again!) Join them for a saucy sail where they explore the beauty of seduction as well as the intensity of a honed sexual repertoire.

 

Interested in traveling to Desire with Ginger and Prof in April 2016? Email Ginger for details at ginger@lifeontheswingset.com.

 

Review Intellectual Foreplay on iTunes!

 

Connect with Ginger and Prof on Twitter @gingerntheprof @intelforeplay. Also follow @ontheswingset and @swingsetFM for all the Swingsetty goodness!

Oct 19, 2015

Well, we pretty much hate on Hannibal Rising for about 90 minutes here. Thankfully this is not the last episode of Eat The Rudecast. Miko has read Hannibal Rising as a novel, and fills in how poorly Thomas Harris adapted his own poorly written novel that he was blackmailed by Dino Di Laurentiis into creating. [...]

Oct 14, 2015

Fantasy is a useful tool and a beautiful way to play together. Exploring through fantasy is worthy of consideration when you are embarking into the world of ethical non-monogamy and multi-partnering because it is a risk-free way to discuss what works, and what doesn’t. Ginger and Prof give you permission to enjoy your fantasies together [...]

Oct 9, 2015

Sexual empowerment coach and co-hostess of the Sex Gets Real podcast, Dawn Serra, and the Intellectual Homosexual himself, Lucas Brooks AKA Lucky Charming, joined Lola on stage this month. As Joaquin threatened to drench NY Lola and the Double P rallied to put on an awesome show at Otto’s Shrunken Head. The crowd may have [...]

Oct 6, 2015

We’re joined by frequent guest and friend of the show Kate Kulzick, contributor to The AV Club and PopOptiq, and host of our favorite Hannibal podcast This is Our Design and wide ranging TV podcast The Televerse to discuss Ridley Scott’s 2001 film Hannibal, the final film in the Anthony Hopkins Lecter trilogy. We all [...]

Oct 1, 2015

Prof and Ginger take you for a sail and discuss their introduction and experience with compersion. No worries, the boat isn’t the S.S. Minnow. You’ll make it through this half-hour tour with just a bit of breeze blowing in your ears. Asking each other tough questions about how they each cope when compersion is harder [...]

Sep 29, 2015

After the decent Manhunter and the unacceptably mediocre Red Dragon, we tackle Silence of the Lambs, and are quick to point out that we all adore this film. It’s one of the greatest horror movies, and certainly the greatest serial killer film of all time. With such pedigree we find it difficult not to wax [...]

Sep 25, 2015

Ahhhh… it’s good to see my people again. Welcome back perverts. Many of you travel and have taken the time record a little bit of yourselves. Today I reward your efforts! This is truly a milestone, truly a day worthy of song and drink. It is the day I release a Gentleperverts Social Club where [...]

Sep 21, 2015

We begin the Anthony Hopkins Lecter Trilogy with arguably the worst of the three of them, Red Dragon, an ill advised eleven years later prequel that finds us with an incredibly uninteresting Will Graham in Edward Norton, serviceable at best Dolarhyde and Reba (Ralph Fiennes & Emily Watson), but a more restrained performance from Anthony Hopkins, [...]

Sep 17, 2015

Prof and Ginger tackle the conundrum that often in heterosexual relationships cross-gender friendships are considered odd, suspect, or even forbidden. Reflecting on their own experiences with sexy and “platonimous” friendships, they deconstruct the damaging cultural expectations for friendship when in relationships. Their take on open friendships means respecting each human deserves their own meaningful connections [...]

Sep 15, 2015

We’re joined by Sean Colletti, the other half of the This is Our Design team to discuss an epic example of ’80s movie, Michael Mann’s Manhunter, the first filmic adaptation of Red Dragon, as we begin our analysis of the Hannibal Lecter film series. We wade into the Brian Cox VS Anthony Hopkins – Who is [...]

Sep 12, 2015

Lola and the Double P took over the stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on September 3rd. Co-hostess of the Carnalcopia podcast and all around badass Katie Mack and our favorite giver of go-go goodness Sweet Lorraine joined Lola on stage. Katie and Sweets were officially inducted into the Pussy Posse, (Pussy Tickles Ya’ll!! ) and [...]

Sep 9, 2015

Ginger and Prof spar a bit and share their strategies during an intimate conversation from bed. Finding escape in each other rather than escape from each other is a key component to being your partner’s biggest fan. This relationship philosophy holds compersion and generosity are necessary gifts to give one another through both challenging and [...]

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