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Jun 27, 2017

This is the first two edited chapters from the Approaching the Swingularity audiobook. Cooper and Kat Stark each read a chapter from the beginning of the book.

Dec 19, 2016

It's really been a year, hasn't it? I know I've been quieter than usual, at least here on the blog. I've been outspoken to the point of blithering loudmouth elsewhere, though. Including a misguided, if impassioned, attempt to reign in someone trolling in a Trump hat on election night at #SSDesire. 

I feel unmoored. Unstuck in time and space. And not in the good way that post-Desire usually brings. Unmoored in that I truly don't feel I have a handle on direction just now. I don't know how to get that back, or how to return toward my goals. All I have now are abstract thoughts, and I struggle with all of them.

As this is a website about sex positivity and inclusiveness, I try to err on the side of compassion. It doesn't always work, of course, and I'll make comments that alienate others. Hell, I know #NotAllChristians, so I don't need to be reminded of that anymore. I'm uncouth, I'm outspoken to a fault, and truly, I often speak before I think, and write before I think.

I've wanted to write about my feelings post-election, a dispatch from the #NewNormal, but have been unable to, thus far. I've started many times, and just given in to my darker despair urges, thrusting my fists against the posts, railing and ranting, gnashing my teeth and wringing my hands. It has, at times, been cathartic, but mostly just fed the despair.

Today, though, the day the electors vote, I felt that I wanted to say something different.

It's about love.

We all know that it's about to get bad, potentially devastatingly bad for so many we care about, for so many in our marginalized communities. Today (unless something insane happens) Donald Trump will be voted as president-elect. He has appointed some of the least qualified people to the most important offices in our country (why shouldn't his cabinet reflect him, after all?) and many actively oppose the posts to which they've been appointed.

It's tempting to say this is part of the Left/Right dance, that this is "same as it ever was." We've been here before, with W. It's comforting to feel that way, and to those who want to, I don't fault that feeling. Just do so with eyes wide open. Because it may be similar, but it's definitely not the same.

Fascism isn't an instant thing, where one day we wake up to totalitarianism. It's gradual. Many will say it's been coming for decades and that may well be true. But with the outgoing NC government working to ensure that the new governor will have far less power, we see that a new playbook has arrived. The rules have changed. The darkness has become emboldened. We see them now, shoving at the margins of polite society.

Where Barack Obama was a symbol of hope and potential to so many communities who've always felt they could not be president, so now we see Trump as a symbol that you don't need to be "politically correct," that telling the "truth" is a great way to get away with being hateful.

We need to watch that these margin pushes don't become the norm. Eyes wide open means watching out for yourself, your family, but also for those that you don't share race, sexuality, creed, or beliefs with. The poorest, the most vulnerable, they're more important now. We need to take care of them as best we can, because things are about to get bad.

So, go ahead and try not to stress out about the oncoming storm, that's alright. But when you see something happening, speak up. When people say horrible things, racist, sexist, homophobic, classist, or downright ignorant, say something.

Continuing to say something is the only way through. Quiet on the side of good is what has brought us here.

The quote that has, bizarrely, meant the most to me throughout this whole horrific ordeal, comes from Twin Peaks:

"While I will admit to a certain cynicism, the fact is that I am a naysayer and hatchetman in the fight against violence. I pride myself in taking a punch and I'll gladly take another because I choose to live my life in the company of Gandhi and King. My concerns are global. I reject absolutely revenge, aggression, and retaliation. The foundation of such a method... is love." - Albert Rosenfield

We must continue to love each other. Love will out. It must.

Let's take care of each other, and make 2017 the year this horrible wave finally breaks and begins to roll back.

Mar 25, 2016

This is the first two chapters from my novel A Life Less Monogamous in audiobook form, read by myself, Cooper S. Beckett, and Kat Stark.

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We all come to a point in our lives where we finally ask the ever-looming question, “Is this all there is?” And most of us coast along afterwards, just accepting that the answer to that question is probably, “Yes, this is it.” Sometimes, though, we’re lucky. Sometimes we run into the right people at the right time.

Ryan and Jennifer are at that point in their marriage, asking that question. Luckily, tonight at a friend’s holiday party, they’re about to run into those very right people at exactly the right time. Bruce and Paige have successfully crossed the Rubicon into the realm of “what else there is.” They’ve discovered delights and a way of living that Ryan and Jennifer have only ever dreamed about.

Their secret? Bruce and Paige are swingers. And very soon now, thanks to a chance meeting and a new friendship, Ryan and Jennifer will close their eyes, clasp hands, and jump into the deep end of life, exploring the untold wonders of sexuality. Hedonistic pleasures that they can’t even fathom yet, threesomes and sex parties and a deep connection with friends and with each other. The swinging lifestyle.

Today is the day they proclaim: “There is more.” Today is the day they change their lives. 

Jul 12, 2015

The veil is lifting, and Cooper believes that the acceptance of bisexual males is becoming more commonplace. He has his fingers crossed. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free [...]

Jul 5, 2015

“I don’t want to swing anymore.” The feeling can come up for everybody. This is how to work your way through that, and reboot. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and [...]

Jun 28, 2015

Being Dom and being sub in a single night in San Francisco. Cooper takes us back and forth between both scenes. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook [...]

Jun 21, 2015

Cooper puts on his drunken gonzo journalism hat to talk about a melon ball fueled evening at Desire Resort & Spa in Mexico. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial [...]

Jun 14, 2015

Cooper talks about the weird phenomena of his prostate orgasm after effects, the jittery waves of orgasms, which have started appearing after non-prostate orgasms as well. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or [...]

Jun 7, 2015

Cooper tells the story of his vacation crush, the brown-eyed girl he met in San Francisco. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

May 31, 2015

Cooper details the journey from bright-eyed newbie to someone who’s got at least some of “it” figured out. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

May 24, 2015

Cooper talks about erectile dysfunction and being nervous about swinging. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

May 17, 2015

Cooper tells a story of a night with newbies that turned into more than planned unexpectedly. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

May 10, 2015

Cooper posits the concern mitigation of designating a time and place a safe zone from judgement, and thus allowing yourself freedom to make mistakes. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and [...]

May 3, 2015

Cooper takes you through how to hide a sex swing. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

Apr 5, 2015

Cooper discusses the newbie question of “how does this work?” and how it applies to swinging. This is the work-in-progress podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

Mar 29, 2015

Cooper talks about the fact that we all have wanderlust, a “grass is greener” mentality, and how our society would be so much healthier if we didn’t stigmatize it so hard. This is the podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy [...]

Mar 22, 2015

Cooper talks about how to take your sex toys on vacation, and what that means for airport security. This is the podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

Mar 15, 2015

Cooper gives you the whys and hows of oral sex with a barrier. He also gets silly. This is the podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com    

Mar 9, 2015

Cooper reminds us all how awesome making out is, and how we should do it far more. This is the podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

Feb 22, 2015

Cooper reflects on how vital touch is to our human experience, and how it’s sidelined in vanilla culture. This is the podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

Feb 15, 2015

The exciting phenomena of a first date with swingers recharging your primary relationship, as Cooper continues his origin story. This is the podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by Cooper S. Beckett. Buy the ebook, paperback, or uncut and commercial free audiobook at MyLifeOnTheSwingset.com

Feb 8, 2015

Cooper and Marilyn go on their first date with a swinging couple.

Feb 1, 2015

Cooper reflects on the fact that he isn’t now, nor ever was cool, but that in non-monogamy, he gets to do something that the cool kids he knew in high school could only dream of. This is the podcast version of the audiobook My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory written by [...]

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